My post history has more information but in July of this year my older sister called CPS on me. She fabricated a bunch of lies and told the CPS officer that I was physically abusing my children and neglecting them. Thankfully we had a very reasonable CPS investigator and she ruled the case out very quickly with very minimal intrusion into our lives. It was still scary as f*** and I never want to go through that again. After I found out that it was my older sister who called CPS I went no contact with her, I never confronted her about how I knew it was her who reported me. My older sister got help and was diagnosed with BPD. I've only had one phone conversation with her since her diagnosis when my mom told me she wanted to apologize. So I unblocked her but the reason she called was to get upset with me over the fact that my children were coming down to visit my parents and she was going to have to go stay somewhere else. For Thanksgiving this year we spent it with my in-laws so I didn't have to worry about it.

For Christmas I asked my parents if they wanted to celebrate the weekend before Christmas this year. My mom just called me and told me that my older sister found out that we were doing Christmas the weekend before and wanted to come. I told her that I wasn't very comfortable with it and for sure my husband was would be 100% against it. He's still very angry about how she called CPS on not only us but also included his mom in the allegation. It honestly kind of seemed like she was just trying to ruin his life. I'm 100% on my husband side and will not force him to be around my sister until he's comfortable. My mom started crying said she understood but had a hard time excluding my sister from family gatherings. She then told me that she didn't want to invite my siblings for that weekend so it didn't seem like a big family thing that my sister wasn't a part of. I haven't gotten to see my siblings since the whole fiasco in July because I didn't want my sister be excluded so I haven't attended any family gatherings. I thought having my Christmas with my family the weekend before would be a good idea so she wasn't being left out on actual Christmas Day. (My siblings live near my parents and can do both weekends.) I know being no contact with my sister meant that I wouldn't be able to attend most family functions but I didn't think it would ALL family gatherings.

I'm just feeling frustrated and also conflicted, she is my sister and I want her to get better but I honestly don't know if I can ever get over what she did.