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Hello. Me again.
Just a brief summary, left my abusive partner , he didn't take it well. I'm currently staying at a women's shelter with our daughter. I was really confused on what I want. I did figure it out. I told him I was definitely, 100 percent done.
He didn't take it well, exploded on me over the phone. Went on about how he was taking our daughter and I'd be lucky if I saw her, because he had a job and I have nothing, not even a place to live. That I was lying to be where I was, that he never lifted a finger near me. That all I did was lie and twist things to suit my needs.
We ended the call, and I got some support right away from the staff. I was extremely upset. He kept calling and texting, so I put the phone on silent.
I dealt with the messages later. I explained I only wanted to communicate through text.
He said he wanted to go over details like the bills and our lease. So we hammered out the details. He seemed upset that I had answers, but like, he was asking me pretty valid questions.
He also said a bunch of crap about how I wanted to sleep around. Which is funny only because I'm nowhere wanting a relationship, let alone sex right now. And actually, me not wanting sex but him still wanting to, was a pretty big issue in our relationship.
I think I really got emotional whiplash from how quickly his moods changed. Like, a switch really. I knew people warned me about it, but I was still really surprised at how fast his whole demeanor just shifted gears so fast.
I need to go get my stuff from the house by the weekend. I'm going to have to find a storage locker, a truck to rent, grab what I can't live without pretty much. I'm trying to mentally pack. I will definitely be getting an officer to come supervise. Its highly recommended in this kind of situation, and it's insurance against him behaving too badly. I'm hoping my sister can come help.
It's funny, thinking about what i will be saving, only because when we started this relationship, I had everything, and he came with just the clothes on his back pretty much. Didn't even have a pillow. And now I'm leaving him with EVERYTHING but my and my daughters clothes and a few things that I can't ever replace.
I'm really, really hoping to have a place in about 5 weeks. If everyone could send good vibes, I'd really appreciate it. Deeply.
Also, thank you so much for everyone's support. It really, really means alot to me. I know I didn't respond to everyone's comment, but I did read. I'm very introverted and basically got burned out.
But yes. It let me know that it was okay for me being done with relationships . That I didn't need to go back. Even though, part of wanted what was familiar. The unknown is so very, very scary.
Mentally, I was feeling much, much better. I mean, I got out of Quarantine and was able to get around the shelter and being able to be in public was really amazing.
But right now I feel wrung out, sad, lonely, and a whole Host of other things.
I also feel pretty wary of what Is next.
I'm all over the place, and I'm being boring.
Just wanted to say thank you, that I'm definitely not going back, and hopefully I can have a more happy update soon.
Thank you again.
For what it's worth from an internet stranger: I'm proud of you.
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