Long post sorry! TLDR is at the bottom of the post if you wanna skip to that

So my husband and I are pagans and plan on bringing up our twin girls this way too. We worship the old gods devoutly and celebrate all the pagan holidays. Ostara over Easter, Yule over Christmas, etc. Which is the reason I'm making this post. The holidays are so close around the corner, you can practically see Santa standing in your chimney menacingly.

His and my family are pretty all Christian. Maybe a few Catholics. My immediate family knows I'm a pagan and has no problems with it other then maybe mis-saying stuff "Christmas tree rather then yule tree, Christmas gifts then yule gifts". His family doesn't know I'm a pagan largely because we don't see them all that much and when we do, we don't have those kinds of conversations.

But now that the holidays are here I want to correct them and tell them we don't celebrate Christmas (sorry Jesus I don't want to come to your birthday party lol). I know it goes without saying but just telling them we celebrate Yule will open a can of worms of mostly confusion and contempt behind my back. (My MIL is famous for talking about me behind my back...to my husband...who tells me what she says...idk she's not very smart) I don't really feel like having the same conversation for the billionth time about my religious beliefs and the history of modern Christmas traditions being pagan with people who are just going to misunderstand what I say anyway 🙄

Literally all I want is for my family to say happy yule to us and the girls. That's it but again worm can.

TLDR: just want family to respect different religious values during holiday times but am scared to start drama