So my partner of 7 years is a total slob. He's not completely hopeless- he will do the dishes when the sink is overflowing, take out the garbage, and clean the cat box when it smells. He will very occasionally do other chores, if I mention it often enough.

I used to bust my ass keeping our place spic and span. I used to pick arguments and pout and protest that it just wasn't fair that he didn't clean up to my standards. And you know what ladies? It wasn't. So I gave up too. Our place is an absolute mess. Hasn't been vacuumed in weeks, floors haven't been scrubbed in months, bathrooms go months without being clean. I don't care any more. And you know why? Because it was all we used to fight about. We used to BRAWL over it. We used to have yelling matches about how much he was putting me out and how much I just wished he could change to be more conscientious and tidy.

Now? We haven't fought in a year. We get along great. The house is a pigsty, but we get along great! Our relationship has never been more harmonious, our sex life is better, no more butthurt pouting (on either end) and we're just happier.

So I'm not thrilled about living in a mess but I've come to terms with it. I'm still hoping he realizes one day 'wow, we live like trailer trash- we've gotta get our shit together!'. But I'm not holding out for it. And things are better this way. If he was an asshole partner in any other way, I would be SO done by now, but he's actually so loving, thoughtful, kind, generous, sweet, sexy, hardworking and just overall amazing with me and my kid that this one gigantic flaw was worth overlooking and coming to terms with, you know? Like I've got a good man! He treats me great, loves me so much, doesn't cheat on me or lie to me, never puts me down, never picks fights, is responsible, is great to be around, he's just a fucking slob, not worth losing him over.

Anyone else out there do this?