So as the title states, my daughter turns 5 next month and her party is going to be the 16th which is before her birthday.

However, I am working on moving out of my mom's house where we (me and Hailey) live with her and my sister and both are extremely pissed at me for moving and how I have been going about things. The sister who lives with me has already flat out told me she isn't sure if she wants to come because she thinks I will just make it about me, which I never have so I am very confused about that excuse, and her best friend also put down a no.

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I'm moving because they are financially draining me dry every time I get money and then expect me to clean house after going to school full time while they sit around sleeping or watching TV/playing on their phones.

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The house is a complete disaster, I stopped doing dishes about 2-3 months ago because I was the only one doing them and what do you know, they only wash dishes when they need them now. My mother's dogs (she has 4) shit and pee inside whenever they feel like it because my mom is sleeping all the time or in her room so she doesn't bother letting them out, my sister and I tend to do it and I take care of both my own dog (I got her over 9 years ago, she is spayed and everything and only comes inside at night) and my daughter's new kitten my mom dumped on us mid December. She expects us to clean up after them and my sister agrees with her, one of them also bites which they blame on my daughter and another is very grouchy. My mom is also a hoarder so the house is jam packed with so much junk and she has no use for it. She gets it off the street, goodwill, buys on facebook groups, etc. None of it is needed.

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Past that, guess what we have mice! Not cleaning and hoarding has made them multiple a lot but these people aren't bothering to clean/empty out the house! I cleaned the whole kitchen along with another sister of mine who doesn't live with us. There is a box of nasty dishes I wanted to toss but my mom told me no. So I told her to go through it and toss what she doesn't want and wash what she does. It's still sitting there, and now her dogs have peed on it multiple times. The mice are bad enough that I have thrown out a lot of my clothes as well because mice were nesting in my drawers and chewing through the clothes, and my closest is about to be cleaned out for the 2nd time which is where I keep my books and some more clothes.

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Now to the fun part of why I am really writing this, because that above was a general rant of the crap I've been dealing with. My daughter's party is coming up and she wants a unicorn party, she is super excited for it and also extremely impatient. Well with all this going on the sister who lives with me has said she doesn't know if she wants to go. Why? Because she thinks I will make it all about myself. I have never once made any party my daughter has had about myself, but both my sisters have decided I am a narcissist and a sociopath so obviously I am lying. And I am just moving with Hailey because I am so selfish and want to screw sister and mom over.

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I have flat out said no to that, this party is about Hailey no matter what and I wouldn't do anything to make her party unhappy. According to the sisters I would because making her unhappy means I get to comfort her. What kind of logic is this??? I hate seeing my child upset. She lost her papa (my dad) in May 2017 and lately she has been crying about him a lot because it's finally sinking in for her, and they think I enjoy that too. And to boot they have been telling family members and friends how horrible I am to them, all without mentioning their own faults. I talk to my best friend about this, but I have fully admitted to her when I don't do things and we even had a falling out a couple years ago (she put in money to a house we agreed to get together and I bailed last minute because my family made me feel like I was losing them if I left, they played this game before multiple times now).

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I'm worried though that more family members won't come to the party and it'll suck. I know a friend of mine is happily coming and I might be able to get another friend or two to come and my mom will come regardless, but the sister who doesn't live with me will probably make some offhanded comments and she used to help me with the party planning/set up and according to sister who lives with me she apparently hates me for all of this. The other people I invited was a close family friend who said she is coming, and then my sister's in laws who will hopefully come but haven't marked anything, and then my daughter's paternal relatives who are coming.

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To boot I know they are probably reading this too, the sister that lives with me has some stalkerish tendencies that lead to her questioning why I was at my daughter's dad's house one day because she looked on a tracker we all had. I deleted that app because I don't like being followed and she would tell me I shouldn't be around him or take Hailey near him ever, yada yada. (So like hi there, have fun screenshotting this like you did my other posts.)

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Sorry for the long post, just a lot building up.