Hi BroMos...me again (I know, woe is me, poor poor pitiful me). I'm just...lost. As everyone knows, I ruined my my husband's life by filing for divorce. Bequeathing him the house, pay him child support and alimony. He is currently upset at me how I have ruined his life, wanted him to fail, kicked him while he was down, have always hated him. The list goes on. The tiny support team I have tells me be kind to myself. But I have done nothing worthy of self compassion or forgiveness. I should be made to 100% carry this deep shame spiral. Someone else told me it was ok to choose safety. But of that was the case, then why does it feel wrong? Why does it carry an immense tidal wave of guilt. I've tried to be good and listen to his hurt and take everything he has said. At what point do I just accept I'm a shitty person?