My husband is 4 days sober. I’m proud of him. I’m not sure long it will last, but I’m proud nonetheless. He’s not a raging alcoholic, he’s not the type of guy that goes off to the bar and doesn’t come home until late (or go to the bar at all), he’s not the guy you look at and go “yikes, what a drunk”. He’s very functioning, wakes up and goes to work every day, works long hours, and isn’t generally sick.

But it was getting out of hand. He would pride himself on taking a long time to drink through a bottle of vodka, but wouldn’t acknowledge the barn/garage beers that were scattered and hidden throughout that he’d drink from. 10-15 at a whack. He said he budgeted for a case a week, but was bringing home more and only bringing in a few cans at a time to hide it. I couldn’t say anything without him being very defensive.

Every time I would mention how it’s unfair that he can budget for beer and hide beer, but I can’t get myself a coffee on the rare trips to town he’d come back with “I’m the one that goes to work and makes the money. When you make money I guess you can buy coffee all you want.” He’s an aggressive drinker. Selfish, rude, and ruthless.

He’s attempted quitting a miriad of bad habits and never follows through. Maybe I’m being naive and he’s actually just drinking outside when I’m not looking, but for now ignorance is bliss I supposed.

My husband is 4 days sober and I’ll be proud either way.