Tldr: Have any of you continued to live a fairly alternative/bohemian/whatever you want to call it lifestyle since having kids? How do you nourish the other parts of your identity?

I'm a way off from giving birth to my first and have become anxious about who I'll be when bub comes.

I'm someone whose lifestyle/interests skews a bit alternative. I'm really into music and live shows, festivals, going to queer events & engaging with my community, arts & culture, I'm a huge Commie, militant feminist, etc etc. In general I feel pretty out of step with the mainstream and tend to enjoy spaces/people/experiences that aren't the most popular/'standard' things, if that makes sense.

I know that of course things will change a lot in terms of time/energy/priorities, not kidding myself there. What I guess I'm anxious about is that most of the role models I have as mothers have really made the mum identity their whole thing, and really settled into a very normcore life. I sit with colleagues and the conversation is all about their kids, their renovations, their mortgage, their spouse, their lawn, their diet, maybe Netflix at a push... 100% domestic life stuff. My mum only ever wanted to be a mum and happily gave up the other parts of her life to only focus on it, and my sisters in law are the same, it's all been a lead up to motherhood and their identity as mothers is all they care about. ZERO judgement of this, it's just not me.

Of course I'll love my baby and relish them and I realise that all the boring adulting stuff is an important part of life, I'm a very functional adult. I just have so much to me that's outside of that and I find the white picket fence stuff really boring. Again, no shame on mums who just fully relish the mum life and want that to be their whole thing, what's important to me is not better than what's important to someone else.

I'm scared that having a baby will mean I have to become 'normal' and give up the parts of me that buck the mainstream. Have any mums here felt the same? Have any of you continued to live a fairly alternative/bohemian/whatever you want to call it lifestyle since having kids? I feel like I'm about to be thrust into Stepford Wives!