My older daughter is doing great and we have a good relationship (best mom award), but my younger daughter (13) thinks I'm the meanest, worst mom ever as of today.

Since Xmas break, she's been staying the night every weekend (sometimes 2 nights in a row) with her bff. We've talked about her shirking her responsibilities at home and half assing cleaning her room, just so she can go to her friend's house. She is doing alright in school though.

So we've told her over a week in advance that she's not going to her bff's this weekend. She's debilitatingly devastated. Bawling and wailing. This also makes me think that something else besides regular teen fun is going on. I dunno, it just seems like a red flag for her to act like that.

I also want her bff's family to have some weekend family time to themselves for a change. I also told my daughter her bff is welcome to come here (even if for a daytime hangout, if her mom doesn't want her sleeping over) but for some reason her mom won't let her (another red flag).

Am I on some power trip by not letting her sleep over every.single.weekend for 6 weeks straight? If I was in her bff's mom's shoes and my kid was having a sleepover every weekend I'd be scratching my head. To me, a sleepover every now and then is perfectly ok, but not every single weekend (and to unconsolably cry when I say no is making my spidey senses tingle).

Edit: yes I've talked to the mom and she said she doesn't mind, but to me that still doesn't make it ok or appropriate for my daughter to stay there every weekend. Also I know some people don't know how to say no (to their kids or otherwise).