(Someone DM’d to say that copying and pasting the same post and reposting it is annoying/offputting. While we respect all opinions, a) we try to give each posting some time to breathe before re-upping, b) we feel we’ve written a pretty good post that clearly spells out what we’re searching for, so why reinvent the wheel?, and c) can’t hurt to bump and get some new sets of eyes on it every few weeks. So, sorry, but not really sorry.)

Hey there, reddit. We’re a long term committed couple (both 31 - she’s bi and he’s straight. Together over 11 years, married almost 3). We’ve come to this corner of the internet searching for single females who share a mutual interest in worthwhile friendships, meaningful connections, and the benefits building good chemistry can afford 😉 Neither of us are looking to rush into or force anything - a few no expectations “dates” or “hangouts” (trivia night, barhopping, a fire and some pizza, etc. - down for whatever, as long as it’s fun!) to start before anything further is pretty much a requirement on our end. Rather than meeting up and having an endgoal/expectation in place beforehand, makes more sense to us to just meet up with people who share an overall interest in that sort of thing and naturally arrive at that stage once everyone’s comfortable and interested, is able to discern that everyone involved is good people, etc. No expectations = no disappointments! Pre-pandemic, we had an experience like this with another redditor we met here and it was an amazing friendship/experience while it lasted (she moved away and into a more traditional relationship). Definitely not trying to recreate or replicate that bc every experience and friendship is its own unique part of life, but we’re always up to play whatever hand life wants to deal!

We’re, as we said, both 31. Like to think we’re pretty mature (at least emotionally and adult functionality wise), but we also like to think we still know how to have fun like we’re in our early 20’s. College educated, have jobs, homeowners, all that boring adult stuff. Personality wise, we’re both really laid back, go with the flow type people. We think we’re pretty respectful, cool, good all-around humans, but guess you can be the judge of that. Looks wise, we’re probably somewhere between a 5-10, depending what you’re into. Not gonna paint some unrealistic picture of what we look like like most r4r postings (everyone has an olympian’s physique and has a foot long penis or DD’s, don’t you know?), but we do our best to keep in shape and take care of ourselves (her with yoga, him with running/weights). If you’re into big butted brunettes, you’ll probably like her. If you’re into leaner dudes with tattoos and beards, you’ll probably like him. Obviously willing to share pictures if you’re interested.

Preferably, you’re from South of Boston/North of Providence (we’re somewhere around there, without getting too specific), somewhere between 25-40, and normal/respectful/cool/honest (and by normal, we really just mean not creepy, bc if you’re in r4r looking for sex, how normal are you by society’s standards, really?).

If you made it this far, apologies for the length, but thank you for taking the time to read! We’re kinda picky I suppose, but hopefully not in a rude way - we just know what we’re looking for and what we aren’t looking for and aren’t really interested in anything else (no disrespect intended). Looking forward to hearing from you!

Not really looking for single males - sorry guys. Couples - we’ll always consider - but, not our main focus either.