Intro: So I am not here for sex - I am in a relationship and mostly pleased with it. I am hoping to find someone who is really similar to me who I can bounce thoughts about sex and gender off. Ideally, we could become friends.

A short ramble about me: I am a grad student in a scientific subject at a local school. I am 26. I read a lot of science and literary fiction. I make lots of pizza at home. I am generally regarded as pretty strange (which says a lot in my milieu), but I am consistent and reliable. I like to run, and I like to swim to avoid running injuries. I am a bit self absorbed/amused, but I have enough self awareness to not hurt myself/others with this trait. I am a pleasure seeking person and I associate feeling sad/depressed with an inability to see the simple pleasures in life. I think way too much, but excuse it by declaring it one of life's greatest simple pleasures. I am generally pretty happy with myself though I have my ups and downs (now is a mostly up moment).

What I am looking for specifically: I have plenty of friends who I can talk to about sex and gender stuff with, but none of my friends are really similar to me in a few important ways (simultaneously). I'd like to have these in a friend:

• Is aware/has opinions on the "sissy thing" and who does not just intellectually accept every aspect of it (and it does have a lot of uncomfortable aspects). Someone who even gets it, feels it, but does not just intellectually accept it.
• More generally, someone who is a very sexual person.
• Someone who thinks a lot about power and violence, both in their personal life and out in the world.
• Someone who has transitioned (MTF, ideally as I was AMAB).
• Someone who gets the appeal of high heels.
• Someone who likes to people watch
• Someone who reads too much of something.
• Someone who tries to take care of themselves, physically and mentally. Even if you don't always succeed.
• Someone who does not work with me (though works in some sort tech/scientific environment). Ideally you might even have thoughts about how this one relates to the rest. (Also note that obviously I don't work with myself)

Anyway, this post is probably a shot in the dark because I am asking for a lot. Even more so as I am not certain that this absurd list is the foundation for a good friendship with me. However, if I get lucky, I will note that I am thinking about going to clothing store in the next few days to get a fall outfit (I was just at a department store on a dough related adventure and I saw some heels that made me think it is time for fall, which made me glad to live in a place where the changing of the seasons is a powerful metaphor).