Boston area - 64M 5'9" 170 lbs - Vaccinated 7x - Recent STD tests: all negative

I'm interested in meeting a woman in the Boston area who wants to explore building a healthy relationship based on realistic expectations, shared values, and consistently bringing our authentic and honest selves.

I look forward to fun times, joyful pleasures, getting to know you, sharing who I am, and going slowly.

I'm also realistic and experienced. Conflicts are normal. When they come up, I lean in with curiosity and take responsibility for my feelings. I don't disappear just because things get challenging.

I value emotional vulnerability and safety. What enables you to feel safe? Feel seen? Feel heard? What can I do (or not do) to help you be here in the present moment with me?

I value physical touch -- Receiving joyful, welcoming, giving contact, and being permitted to give freely as well in ways that you can embrace and accept, so you can relax and get out of your head.

I value open, direct, honest communication. I get along best with people who can tell me directly what's going on, since I can't always tell, and who can talk to me if they're concerned about something I'm doing instead of jumping to conclusions.

I see us as both students and teachers. I want to learn about you, what you need from me, how I can speak your language so you can feel safe, heard, and seen. Similarly, I want to teach you about me and what I need, without criticism or judgement.

I'm far from perfect. I've got plenty of flaws and limitations, but I'm also pretty patient, accepting, self-aware, and I'm quite trainable. :)

Friends say that I'm caring, thoughtful, and a natural helper. I had a friend over that I hadn't seen in a while who was trying to eat healthier. I laid out a wide variety of foods and sauces -- lentils, cheese, spinach, broccoli, carrots, chicken, shrimp, nuts, avocado, bread, olive oil, salad dressing, barbecue sauce, and more -- And we had a fun, relaxed lunch as she enjoyed combining the various flavors and textures.

I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. No, I'm not a recovering drinker, smoker, nor drug user, I just never cared for them, nor to be around people who are drunk or high. I'm open to a considerate smoker, and someone who may enjoy a drink but doesn't need it to be social or intimate.

Let's talk, with the intention of meeting in person if things go well, to see how it feels being together.