I'm going to try and express what I'm looking for. I tend to be a self-conscious person so this isn't easy for me.

I'm generally a submissive person, but what I really want is another sub for kinky fun and hopefully a relationship that comes with all the usual relationship stuff (along with the less usual kinky stuff).

I really like penetration. If you you like penetrating, that's great. If not, that doesn't mean we can't still have fun. Maybe we'd have the kind of relationship where we go out and find guys for the night or even regular guys for fun. I also really like bondage and I'd love to tie you down and ride you (or have some guys tie us and fuck us).

I do want to set some expectations. I'm not looking for regular cis men. Maybe eventually, but definitely not any time this post is up. It's not that I don't like men, but I see myself with someone femme long-term and I have a lot of trouble handling the overwhelming nature of guys online. I know it's not all of you, but the second I'm open to men, I'm just going to get nothing other than overwhelming noise that I can't handle. There is zero chance.

I'm also not looking for someone who just wants to play in the bedroom and then feel ashamed and never want to be seen in public. You don't have to be 100% out or anything, but it should be something you're working toward (and I'm more than happy to help support that). I'm not dealing with a closet-case.

While I'm more than happy to build some poly thing with you, I'm not interested in anyone who is already attached. I want to create a close, loving relationship and not just some kinky sex.

I feel like I'm looking for a needle in a haystack so hopefully this post will act as a magnet.

So that you know a bit about me, I'm in a PhD program, I'm 5'6", 120lbs, I like biking, hiking, and going to the beach, and probably watch too much Netflix in my free time.