I am very pleased with how this turned out. It came about quickly: my girlfriend and I were engaging in filthy words and play with each other; we had an immediate fantasy; and I put together a clear post to make it happen.

I received about 25 messages within the 45 minute window. Only five had the things I asked for, and three made it to my shortlist. Of these, I ended up finding one (and told the other two why I went elsewhere, and that I was very interested and want to keep them nearby for another time).

I have gotten about 15 messages AFTER saying that anyone who messaged me after 1030 would be banned.

No women responded, which made me sad, but I'll keep this post up and encourage ladies to find me.

I ended up meeting with /u/leapwithoutfaith (and am writing this with his consent). Why?

LWF:

• Responded with the information I requested in my post
• Sent a SFW photo of himself, and photos of his STI screening results
• Was the only response to mention condoms OR consent (and he did both)
• Described how he fucked and licks in a delicious way, and described his dick without using numbers AND in an honest way (and he had girth, which I very much prefer in a male partner)
• Talked about how he would involve my partner
• Offered to bring a ring light to make my partner's photos/videos easier
• Suggested a nearby place to meet if I wasn't comfortable bringing him inside right away
• Gave me a reference to a former partner who could vouch for him
• Asked about my harness size, so that he could fuck me with his dick and with mine (and in practice, he ended up fucking me with both simultaneously. That was filthy.)

Oh, and he lives about four blocks away.

He has a standing invite to return. Tongue and dick game better than described; manner impeccable.

Moral of the story: women exist, listen to what we ask for, and give us exactly that. Consent, attention to desires and boundaries, and manners go far.