29 YO black male live in San Antonio Texas.

This freeze and cold weather had me in my apartment for two consecutive weekends because it was just too cold for me to be outside even though I’m born and raised in Ohio I just don’t have the tolerance to deal with those temperatures anymore. I’m apart of this black social group and I have only one friend I made who I see somewhat consistent but she chooses to hangout with her friends and doesn’t want to watch anime with me anymore, and I don’t have solid friends in this city to do anything so I get into a vulnerable state and start doing shit I usually don’t do because I don’t have solid friends here.

So the past two weekends all I did was argue with people on the tinder, dating advice, and other Reddit pages on how the dating apps don’t work for most men and I wasn’t getting none of the results I wanted after 3 weeks with good pictures good bios good prompts and not coming off wanting to sleep with the first woman who likes me like most men do every day on tinder, bumble, hinge, Facebook dating etc. going back and forth with so many people I just deleted myself from the Reddit groups and I deleted my dating apps for the billionth time due to no results and games.

It’s a new week and the weather is warmer but rainy down here, I wanna get out my apartment after work and do stuff but I have a hard time doing stuff alone or going to events alone when I don’t know anyone. How do yall go about doing meetups or bars or anything alone and try to put yourself out there not for necessarily find women to date which would be nice but to integrate and have a social life?

I really don’t wanna make 2024 another bad year. All I do is work til 5 YouTube, anime, play my games, talk to my Ohio friends occasionally since they got wives and kids now, my family, and occasional event but it’s not consistent. My life shouldn’t have to come down to this every week and weekend.

I love meeting new people, making friends, and being social but this city hasn’t had the vibe I thought I would get and I feel like I don’t connect with anyone or I gotta force myself to be in the community or communities.

Feels like this city only messes with their own Hispanic, white etc don’t feel welcomed here as a black man. I have intentions to move to Houston this fall for a better future and opportunity to connect with like minded individuals and maybe a better dating scene what’s yall thoughts or experiences on Houston or this topic?