I was having a conversation with my mother this morning to check up on her and the family. If you haven't been watching the news, NY/NJ are impacted by the floods. Also, my sister just had a new daughter born(FYI, I live in Nashville). In the past, me and my sister haven't gotten along after she disrespected me and my boundaries. Somehow the conversation turned to my mother asking me to send my sister money for the new baby. I immediately shut that down as that was one of my boundaries that my sister disrespected. As a new rule, I do not give out money unless it's a medical emergency.

Anyway, I was telling my mother why I don't give people money anymore and she turns it into me not being happy for my sister and the baby. I have been steadily working on myself, including my depression. My mother said, "What do you have to be depressed for? You're too young."

I find that statement so triggering and completely off-base. Not to play the trauma Olympics but I have been though a lot through my teens and early 20's. Death of my favorite aunt, uncle and my brother's suicide when he was only 17 years old. Not having my father throughout my young years and teens. Of course, the global pandemic that caused me to be homeless and unemployed for almost two years and I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO BE DEPRESSED ABOUT!??!

I had to end the conversation at that point and go about my day. I'm glad that I know my triggers and boundaries because if not then I'll be arguing and trying to defend myself rather than just leaving the conversation.