So i read this post on 2x. And in it the guy basically says that he just had no idea that women have to go through stuff until he got married

The world is so backward when it comes to gender. At times its even laughable. My wife and I just got married back in May but so far this is what I've seen. My wife wears a little medical pendent regularly. In the US and all through Europe, on our honeymoon, everyone assumes she's a nurse. She doesn't get uptight or offended she just politely tells them she's a doctor. As for me, I have to hold back my laughter as those people squirm. When She was doing interviews for her residency some of her interviewers asked if she was going to have a baby soon and wanted to know what I (Me the husband) does for a living. She was very upset by this, as was I. The stereotypes even extend to me. I'm self employed and I keep my business small so that I have time to do all the house work because my lady works 80-90 hours per week. Our neighbors and many other people think I'm some sort of couch potato. They'll ask me what I've been up to and I'll tell them. They say things like "Well that's ok, you don't have a lot going on". Why can't people fathom a man in a supporting role? Right now I'm on my lunch break. I have a roast in the oven, bread dough rising on the counter, clothing in the washer, an important client is going to call me in an hour, and I'm doing major engine repair to my wife's car. We are equal parts of a machine that work to make each other happy. People don't get that. Now I know what you ladies have to deal with. Keep pushing, we're all in this together.

A lot of you are with black men as I presume this couple is not black. Are we that clueless? I mean until marriage? A lot of this sounds like stuff I heard about as early as primary school and sort of came to understand around high school, early college. While I would be saddened, I just can't see myself being surprised if I were in his place.

I just can't imagine someone who looks like me accepting that secondary role and then being surprised at how unprepared other people are for that. I know a lot of dudes who wouldn't accept that secondary role. Lotta black guys I know would see it as emasculating but of the ones that would. They all seem aware enough of how that would play out.