You are not superior to the insecure Black ladies just because you overcame your insecurities or had your Blackness affirmed in childhood. It makes you more privileged. It does NOT make you inherently better.

A lot of you look down on or scoff at Black women who say self deprecating things about themselves, taking offense instead of having empathy. You do this because you’re afraid of looking “bad” or being embarrassed in front of others, especially non Black people. I also suspect some of you become re-traumatized when you see an insecure Black woman because maybe that was you at one point. It’s similar to how a lot of fat-people-turned-slim will talk down on fat people. Like sorry you went through that, but it doesn’t mean you now have the right to shit on people.

Can we try to be a little kinder to Black girls who say alarming things about themselves? A lot of these people are literal children. The “couldn’t be me!” “Speak for yourself!” doesn’t do anything but cause more harm and shame. Like it’s really giving mean girl. Not all of us grew up in ATL and you guys need to accept that some of our self love journeys are still in progress and that’s just being human!

EDIT: need to clarify that I made this post as a healed Black woman since people are now projecting a “miserable” narrative onto me👍🏾