Hey ladiesss,

I wanna get better at making eye contact with the opposite sex now that I’m older.

I’m an older millenial (31) and I never used to do anything for guys to approach me. But that doesn’t work anymore lol.

I’m of the ‘if you want me, you gotta show me’ school of thought. I unfortunately am also pretty shy when it comes to being looked at when I’m outside and often look down when guys look in my direction . I know this is very dumb and not helpful but I can’t help it bc it never used to stop boys approaching me before lol and I also don’t know if I should look back bc I don’t know if their ogling me or are interested in talking to me.

I went out with a friend a while back and she had men flocking to her bc she has ‘eye sex’ with them. I think she gives them a come hither look/bedroom eyes in simple terms.I don’t wanna do all that or have the confidence too and I’m not tryna fuck. I just wanna give a small smile and let him come to me. Is this an outdated way to do things? Also I’ve tried the whole approach him and I’m not about it. From my experience, if a man wants you, he’ll find a way to talk to you. I’ve seen it plenty of times to know it’s true.

I also don’t wanna be with a shy guy who wouldn’t approach me. Although I’m shy at giving eyes, I’m pretty confident, open and social in all other areas and want someone as sociable and open.

I hope this makes sense. Tips? Advice? Horrror stories. All welcome 😄