This is just a general question. The other day I was on TikTok and saw a live of a guy doing a girl’s hair. Both were black. A lot of people were in this man’s comments straight up hating, but I kept seeing a lot of white people specifically making rude comments. Now, ordinarily I don’t care. However, a lot of them were saying how he was doing it wrong and just genuinely being rude despite most of them having probably never touched a black person’s hair in their life.

So, I made the idiotic mistake of commenting “why are so many white people in here commenting on black people’s hair? it’s not the same as yours.” I know that was stupid, but the ones I were talking about were being so nasty and had this ‘holier than thou’ attitude, like there was only one right way to do it when our hair can be handled differently than theirs and usually has to be. I felt like they could have expressed concern without the nasty corrections. I guess seeing so many people trash something that was normal and right was annoying to me.

One of them responded and said “Because I grew up on black hair. Why are you being hateful?” Y’all, I hadn’t even seen this lady in the comments. I WANTED to say that I clearly wasn’t talking to her then, but I recognized that I was in the wrong there, so I didn’t. (I did have a very insightful conversation with another lady though, she was sweet.) All I said in return was “I’m not being hateful, I was referring to the ones who don’t know what they’re talking about.” Because a lot of them didn’t. They complained about him using a blow dryer on her hair… during a blowout. I was befuddled because wtf else is he supposed to use? 😭

But anyway, I’m just genuinely curious about how you guys feel when white people correct a black person on how to do black hair. I think it’s okay to a certain extent, but not when they’re mass hating and not even offering usable advice. (For anyone wondering, the girl’s hair turned out beautiful. She was happy with it.)