I’m a white belt, been training maybe 10 months. I’ve been into weightlifting for 18 years so I definitely have a strength advantage on a lot of guys. I get the occasional ‘damn you’re strong’ but I try not to be totally reliant on that because I actually want to learn BJJ.

Anyway had a weird series of events with a blue belt, haven’t rolled with the guy in a long time. He usually goes pretty hard on me too, but I don’t particularly mind it never felt dangerous.

Anyway we’re having what I feel is a fairly normal roll. Few takedown attempts from each of us, I take him down and get out of his guillotine attempt. Half guard for a bit then I mount then he escapes. I go for a darce, felt I had it but he went belly down and I gave it up. He comes up to his knees I go for a guillotine, have one hand cupping his jaw but he defends and I can’t connect my hands and instead of single arm squeezing it I let go and spin around for a back take attempt.

Typical normal ass shit, aside from me being in control most of the round. After the round he tells me I need to cool it on using the strength or I’m going to hurt someone, in a very angry tone. In the next sentence he tells me I need to slow down because I had those 2 submissions but I let them go instead of finishing them.

This seems odd to me? I literally give up submissions when I feel myself in bad positions instead of just squeezing the shit out of them, which I absolutely could do. I did this twice, because I want to have better position instead of muscling off guys necks. Kinda feel like he was maybe upset he couldn’t escape bottom position? Maybe I am just a spaz? But nothing was super fast, cranked hard, everything I got was based off position and abandoned once I lost that position.

AITA?