Hey bi frens,

I've been wanting to talk with other bi people who are in heterosexual relationships (e.g., men dating women, women dating men, etc.) about balancing internal bi identity with an externally "straight" relationship. I'm in my early 30s, currently in a monogamous relationship (though we are considering tinkering with this a bit--TBD) and very in love with/can imagine build a future my (F) partner, while also feeling strongly that the full expression of my sexuality would include sexual involvement with both men and women.

My partner is aware of all of this and not upset by it--she just worries about feeling able to trust me (i.e., that I won't abandon her) if I start playing around with guys or a couple, in the event we do open our relationship. But again...my relationship is not currently open, so please don't write to me for hookups! Friendship, chatting, advice, experiences, solidarity, perspectives--that's what I'm looking for :-).