I'm single 30(f). I'm relatively successful and very happy in life generally. I own my own apartment, and I have a great career and good friends and family.

I've had relationships with men and women, and I'm out to my family who are really supportive. I'm aware I'm very privileged in a multitude of regards. I've worked hard for it but also have been fortunate in life.

I've been single for two years and have recently started to date men again. I'm very uncertain if I want children, and if I were to have kids, I find it difficult to imagine having them with a man. They have far less blowback they need to consider when having kids. Women bear all the burden of the physical and mental side effects of pregnancy. In the case of a divorce, the custody split isnt always fair (in the country I live in one caregiver usually becomes the default parent) and I feel like most men get off scot free in this regard.

I'm going through a phase where my attraction to men is strong, I'm thinking should I just ride out this phase and only date men casually and date women seriously. I feel like if I marry a man, I'll wake up one day and look around at my life in regret, and I'll feel trapped.

Women with kids married to men. If you were me, what choice would you make knowing what you know now. If you were a friend, what would you tell me.

Edit: Thanks for your thoughtful responses they've made me feel happy. I love our community.