I just want to have an opened genuine discussion about how to reach a balance for a healthy relationship between a straight woman and a bisexual man, without opening up the relationship. Me (22F) and my bf (23M) have been together for a bit more than a year. And it wasn’t only for about almost a month ago that he came out to me as bisexual. I was surprised and a lot of emotions and thoughts were going through me. But, we’re still together :) I feel like of course nothing has changed, because he’s the same person. But something in fact has changed. The balance in the relationship is not quite calibrating sometimes, meaning he wants a lot of things to explore his other part of his sexuality. He told me and reassured me that it was purely in a sexual way in his bisexuality. And he doesn’t see men romantically. So he would want to experience with guys solely sexually. Possibly with me as well. And I’m pretty opened to a lot of things but at the same time it’s taking some time to understand the rhythm of the relationship. How to support each other and how to set boundaries and how to actually respect them without being controlling. I have shared my feelings and that I just need a little bit of time to get through it, because even though I’m pretty happy with him, I still have my insecurities and I still aren’t comfortable with a lot of things that he might want to experience. We both share the same opinion that we want to stay together, we love each other and we don’t want to open the relationship for him to try other things. So my dilemma is how can I be a supportive gf while still “allowing” him to experience things, while still being in a monogamous relationship relationship, while opening my boundaries but not owing myself in the process because then I say that I am fine with certain things (because I do want for him to have that experience) when in reality I am sometimes not that comfortable with it?

I’m not trying to be disrespectful or judgmental or anything like that, this just really came out of the blue and I seem to be struggling a little bit to be okay and comfortable with everything.

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