32-year-old M here. Have found myself struggling over the last few months to figure out whether my enjoyment of bisexual MMF threesomes constitutes a want vs. a need in my life. I was in a yearlong relationship with a woman who, herself, is bi and supportive of my own bisexuality, but not interested in non-monogamous sex. We are currently debating getting back together after an extended break-up, but are both struggling with figuring out what is best for both of us.

I spent a lot of years hooking up with couples before meeting her, and a lot of it was fun, but it also always left me wanting to build a deeper relationship with one other person. I know that non-monogamy could allow for both a deep, emotional relationship with one other person as well as sex with other people, but I really value this woman so much (can imagine a future with her, am attracted to her physically/emotionally/mentally/spiritually, just enjoy being around her and feel like my life has been better with her in it) and it makes me feel crazy thinking about ending a relationship with someone I like this much just because she doesn't want to have threesomes, or want me to have threesomes with other people.

We will be seeking out counseling because everyone's situations are different and I can't reasonably expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to know what's best for me, but I'm still interested in hearing about other people's experiences, and the perspective that they've gained from them. For some context, I am a member of a 12-step sex and love addiction group and get support there, too (in addition to having my own therapist, and a sponsor) but this has been very difficult for me to navigate.