I am recently divorced (nasty messy painful) and just getting back to my life, whatever that is. I am well into my 60s (that is what people who are approaching 70 say when they still feel 18 and cannot fucking believe how actually ancient they really are) but am told I look in my early 50s (good genes, I assure you it wasn’t clean living or healthy eating). I have been comfy with being bi for 20 years. Anyway, as I recover from this divorce debacle and try to figure out once again, not who I was before I met that woman but what I have evolved into now, and I try to figure out what my life is going to look like going forward since it can look like any fucking thing I want now lol.

So not long ago I was talking to a friend and remarking that I’m about ready to date I think but I am so fractured from the end of my marriage but I really don’t know if I’m ready to date a woman and maybe I should date a man. I never have dated a man, but the idea of some companionship is certainly enticing. I don’t really know that I’m ready to be with a woman again.

So a couple weeks ago, I went to a cocktail party, put on by an acquaintance of mine. And at this cocktail party, I met an attractive, charming woman. Probably the better part of 20 years younger than me. We talked quite a bit and hit it off and I got her contact information, but of course, being a bonehead I lost it. No one who was at the party that I knew, knew who she was, so I just said OK opportunity lost. So today I get an email and from her saying hello, etc. via a … ahem… adult dating site we are both members of and where my dirty sexual laundry is on display. Turns out she is a Trans Woman (pre op as they say). Anyway, we go back-and-forth during the day and have a very nice conversation. So this afternoon she writes and asks if I would like to take her on a date. I have course responded oh Hell yes.

I’m not particularly seeking advice here. We talked about just going to a museum or something like that to spend some time together, nothing sexual. I’m just rolling it all around in my mind going Oh my God and wanted to share.