Hi, I'm a 38/bi/f whose been trying for an awfully long time to talk to or even make spicy ladyfriends that are down to hang out, snuggle, brunch, have sexy times...but nearly every girl I meet or talk to on reddit or dating apps ultimately comes up with the same ol excuses. I'm sure you've probably heard them...

"I have a boyfriend", "it's my first time", "I'm just so busy this week", "I'm just experimenting", "it's not like I don't know how to.." or the ever classic straight up ghosting.

Even if it were just to become friendship, I'd be totally on board. But it's never to be. So I'm asking the question to the reddit void...what am I doing wrong?