I’ve only recently realized I’m bisexual (internalized homophobia being one reason), and only my husband knows. I don’t want everybody to know, but it felt so amazing and freeing I want to tell my bestie, but I’m torn. In HS I was drinking at a friend’s house with a group of friends (2 males and 1 female including me), and I ended up going to my ex boyfriend, Tim’s (who my friend Kaylee was dating) room and laying down on the bed. While I was laying there with my eyes closed Kaylee came in and started talking to me then kissed me. At first she said it was an accident, but then she kissed me again. Well, somehow I ended up topless, but for some reason she brought everybody in the room for some reason (idk or remember), and then after she got everybody in the room we started making out and ended up going down on each other and her boyfriend joining us. The next school day I found out that the other girl in the group had told my bestie about it. I was upset and asked why she told anybody, and she said she needed to talk to somebody about it. When I talked to my bestie about it I told her I was just drunk, but I’m completely straight. She didn’t want to stay the night with me after that which is fine, but I’d never hit on her or given her a reason to think I would or that I like girls. That was 15 years ago. I was hanging out with bestie and cousin when cousin mentioned having a date with a girl and bestie was excited for cousin until she explained it’s just a friend date. Now I’m wondering it would be a good idea to come out to her. On the one hand she seemed supportive of the cousin, but in the other she didn’t want to be around me as much years ago when she found out I slept with Kaylee. I have a friend who is bi, and I’m wondering if I should just come out to her instead?