Hey! First off, I've been gone for a while. Sorry about that. But you also probably don't even remember me, which is okay. I was a member of Reddit until I, well, wasn't. I took a break. I just didn't delete my account. In that break, I have started to notice that I was feeling good about myself and I was embracing my bisexuality, so now that I'm back, I'm just sorta retelling my story to the world.

So, before coming onto r/bisexual, I had just realized I was bisexual and had some self doubt. I, at the time, did not realize that sexuality isn't just sexual attraction, but it's also romantic attraction. Being a 16-17 year old, I just thought there was sexual attraction and nothing else. So there was self doubt, despite the evidence teetering on "I am bisexual" based off of my limited knowledge of the concept of sexuality. Then I found you guys. This is when my horizon expanded, and the evidence pointing to my bisexuality went from teetering to being entirely in my favor.

I still had self doubt. Self doubt, especially for something as huge as your sexuality, doesn't just turn off like a light. Self doubt is more like turning off an entire house switch by switch rather than just a light. AKA: it takes time, even if you know what you're doing. I also came out to my friends. I thought that coming out to friends, and especially family later on down the line, was like a checkpoint. Like, as if I couldn't turn back, or something (which, in retrospect, is stupid, but worked as a coping mechanism, I guess). I started with one friend who seemed to already know (they knew I wasn't straight before I knew I wasn't straight, lol), as well as another friend, who might've not known. I also told any friend I just met. I figure mine as well get the biphobia out of the way when I don't have a connection with someone, right? Wonderful thing, then, that I never encountered biphobia. I was one of the lucky ones. (Btw, if you are struggling with biphobia, I will give you a free internet hug. Heck, here are all of the free internet hugs you want just for your being you. If you want to/need to vent, DM me. I might take a long time to reply depending on time zones and if I'm busy, so just understand that if I don't get back right away, I will in time). I slowly crept up the friendship "hiearchy,' as I told friends in order from the least liked (but still liked) friends to my bestest of best friends. Despite being out, I still was unsure of myself. I actually wondered if I had to come out as straight to the people I came out as bi to. 😅 Glad that was avoided. XD

Over time, I realized where I stood on the bisexual spectrum. My sexual attraction is mainly for girls, while the bi-cycle sometimes makes me attracted sexually to men, while my romantic attraction is for men, which the bi-cycle sometimes makes me romantically prefer women. That explains why in half of my save files for the game "Fire Emblem Three Houses," I romanced a guy (Demitri and Ferdinand, if you are curious. I romanced Ferdinand first, and Demitri second) despite the women being more attractive to me (adult women, I will add. I don't deal with child grooming. Even with, like, 17 year olds. It just feels so wrong 😖).

I then came out to my mom who, with my permission, told family (and maybe friends, but I don't remember). I got nothing but support. I still remember that day.

I mean, it was in 2020... but still! XD

Guess what?

I had no more self doubt, or at least only a little (sorry, my memory is fuzzy, lol). Granted, the self doubt faded away all throughout this story. But around the time I came out to my parents is when it really started to stop if it hadn't already stopped.

Now I am a proud bisexual. Self doubt is gone and I'm just happy to be me. Someone I know was even proud of me for being so, well, out. I just like being bi. I like being me. Being bi is worthy to be proud of, no matter what other people might say. Being YOU is worthy to be proud of, no matter what other people might say. Thank you, and be the proudest you you can be. You're worth it. I thank you, again.

Long story: the closet gave me self doubt, so I came out.

Does anyone else want to share their bisexual story? I'll gladly share the spotlight with my fellow bisexual people. :)