My situation probably isn't terribly uncommon and I hope some of you can relate. Basically, I have a monogamish relationship with my spouse, which is basically a 1-dick rule. I can seek out and have sex with other women, but men are off the table. For what it's worth, I was the one who suggested this arrangement since he satisfies all my desires for heterosexual sex, intimacy, etc.

But the part of me that is same-sex attracted doesn't want to give up lesbian sex and intimacy for the rest of my life, and if my partner is okay with it, what's the problem?

Well, I've been surprised to discover that a lot of people take issue with this sort of arrangement, and judgment comes in a surprising amount of forms. The most common are a) out of a misguided feeling of 'fairness' being violated, b) they feel it's regressive towards gender and sexual orientation equality or c) it means I am a fake bisexual and view women as sexual obects.

I feel like relationships like mine are totally legitimate and not uncommon, and yet people take an aggressive stance towards it, and I feel cornered into validating my sexual orientation and preferences yet again when it is no one's business.