Hi everyone, and Happy Pride. I'm 31, been married to women twice and divorced, and grew up SUPER religious and conservative. As I got older, those beliefs were challenged and changed. I've known I was attracted to both men and women pretty much more whole life but refused to even admit it to u myself until maybe 2 years ago. Ive had a handful of random same-sex hookups over the years, but never anything serious. I started being open about that with friends and people I trusted about a year ago, and right now the only people that have no idea are my entire family (except for my 29yo little brother who is really cool about it). I just don't know what to do, because I'm definitely considering getting a boyfriend and crossing that line into full-on same sex relationship for the first time in my life.

Should I tell my parents? I hate hiding shit from them that I'm open with other people about, but I think if I do tell them, that relationship will be pretty much ruined. I guess I'm just kinda lost and asking for some advice and other personal experiences from people who have found themselves in similar situations. Is it more important to be true to myself and EVERYONE around me, or should I hide and keep it 100% private for their sake?