My wife and I know several couples with open / non-monogamous relationships. For whatever reason, the topic came up briefly in conversation on Sunday. I sensed an opportunity.

Monday night, I decided to broach the topic in greater depth. I led with something along the lines of "if that's ever something you want, I'm almost positive I'd be ok with it." We talked about it. She said it isn't currently on her radar, and may not ever be, but was glad of the permission such as it is. Then she asked if I wanted an open arrangement.

I said not really, and I meant it. We've been together for 20 years, and I said I don't want to start dating anyone. I said that I had no interest in having sex with another woman, and I meant that, too. After a very nervous pause, I said that I do, however, want to have sex with another man.

I told her that I may not act on it, but that I want it. That I've wanted it for a long time. That it doesn't diminish any of my love or desire for her.

To my everlasting joy she was very accepting and loving. I've been walking around ever since with a smile on my face and a flutter in my heart. I wish I hadn't waited so long to have the conversation!