Does anyone else feel morally indebted to the queer community because they've predominantly dated the opposite gender? I used to feel this all the time.

I can only speak from a woman's perspective here – why is it that most bi women will "end up" in heterosexual relationships? Is it purely a numbers game, the fact that there are more men pursuing women than women pursuing women? Or are bisexual women really foregoing same-sex "options" in order to attain more comfortable, socially accepted lives?

I'm sure that maybe some bisexual women make shallow decisions when it comes to romantic partners – just like anybody else though, regardless of sexual orientation? IDK it just bothers me, the fact that people can so easily accept that heteronormative socialisation is what drives us, and that we aren't capable of making decision based on a legitimate sexuality.

IMO it's just another excuse to paint us as fraudulent, deceptive, shallow. It completely disregards the fact that we also went through a struggle of discovering our sexual identities and trying to live our authentic selves. It's like no matter what we do, people will constantly see us as being secretly allied with the patriarchy or something. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Attractions happen and yes we are affected by the availability of partners around us, whether you like it or not.

I'm a bit hesitant about posting this but I feel that it needs to be said, for every bisexual woman (or man) who has ever felt needlessly guilt-tripped over the years. I'm sure that some people are gonna take offence or are just gonna disagree, but this is the internet and I'm willing to hear it.