I’m a bi woman, I’m in a long term committed relationship with a woman and for months I have been having non stop dreams about being with a man. This has crossed over into day dreams and intense fantasies. It’s caused me to really question my sexuality even tho I know I am attracted to my girlfriend and have been attracted to women my whole life. Maybe it’s just because we have been together for years and we live together that the excitement isn’t there anymore? I remember when I was in a long term relationship with a man, I had similar fantasies about sleeping with women.

For context, we have been having relationship issues over the past year and have been having less sex as a result. On some level it makes sense why I feel this way, but I don’t want to take it at face value that I should give up on my relationship just to quell a sexual craving. I feel so guilty and I am not able to talk to her about it at all, as she is very insecure about the idea that I prefer men over her. However, I think the shame has just made it even worse. I just find my subconscious mind is literally ravenous for dick and I don’t know how to get it to stop. Can anyone else relate? What do I do about it? How can I overcome the grass is always greener feeling?