This isn’t to shame those of us who don’t want to come out, cannot come out, or who are out on a limited basis. There’s no right or wrong way to be out. And I think most of our sub falls in one of those categories.

But I also know there are a lot of us in same sex relationships that are out all the time by virtue of that. I may not necessarily be out as ‘bi’ but people know I’m queer very quickly. I’ve got a wife. It’s obvious. There’s no hiding.

It’s gonna be scary out there for us Americans across the next four years. I’m worried about my marriage. I already don’t do any form of PDA where I live because we’ve had slurs yelled and almost gotten into physical altercations. Even just making small talk with a stranger can be a risk.

But all I can do is be out and proud and not afraid of being who I am.

I see you, everyone who is in a spot where people immediately clock you as queer. I see the risk you live under. I see the fear. I see the uncertainty going forwards. We are going to be in this together.

And again, please don’t take this as a slight if you cannot be out or are not out. That’s okay! I just want this sub to have loud and visible representation for people in same sex relationships. We’re fewer in number, but our experiences are just as valid and just as bi.

Sometimes, our queerness encompasses a lot more than sexual proclivities and there’s just no turning it off. I see you if you’re living that. Stay safe out there. It’s not a competition, but our experiences are as worth sharing as anyone else’s. There are many threads on not being out. There are very few on being out.

Edit: downvotes on this are quite sad