I came out as bi to my mom in October, as I figured I could test the waters and see if she would react well to me coming out as ENBY as well. In the moment I was actually presently surprised- she asked questions- about how I knew, and she said that she was not going to tell anyone else that I hadn’t already told. (Partly because I asked her too but now I think she’s ashamed of my sexuality) She was way more “supportive?” Than I expected to be. Maybe she would be able to handle me being enby and not her big little man. But now a couple months have passed and not even a week after I came out she’s started to treat me like I have a disease that my siblings are gonna catch. Saying shit like “Don’t you dare defile you brother” And I don’t know how to explain to her that this isn’t like the fucking common cold. Apparently who I am is “defiling” and to hear that from your own mother because you figured out who you’re attracted too is wild to me. So instead of shutting up about it I started being more vocal about my male crushes. We were watching Ted lasso and o have the hugest crush on Trent Crimm, so I said something about it. She rolls her eyes and scoffs in disgust. She says things like “I don’t know why they have to put a gay person in every story” and I’m mind blown- I tried explaining that in my generation 20% of people are LGBTQ folks, and the given people in Ted lasso of the main cast is about 20 or so people. It was actually really accurate to how often people like that would show up in your life these days and that she needed to get over it. Let’s just say that didn’t go over well. My mom hates being defeated by facts and statistics. And now I’ve never felt more emotionally distant from her. Not because I’ve stopped trying to connect but because she has. I just don’t know what to do and could use some comfort while I figure all that out. Thanks for reading about my little problems. Have a blessed day.