23F demisexual; questioning lesbian / bi (obligatory 95% women, 5% men post)

Okay, I'm gonna keep this as concise as possible since I have a tendency to over-explain shit.

I am in love with femininity. I have only ever been in love with women up until now; I am in love with a gay man, who just so happens to be very feminine.

I am NOT in love with masculinity, regardless of gender. However, the man I am in love with has some masculine features that I do not oppose? Like, he's got chest hair and I think that's very attractive. I guess he is the only exception. I've not ever been attracted to masculine features, even with the men I dated before I concluded myself as a lesbian. This is why I'm so confused. Aaaaaaaaahhhh.

I feel like if I label myself as bi, it doesn't really "fit" me; it feels fake I guess. I've never ever felt this way towards any man until now. I feel like Lesbian "fits" me more, however, I'm not truly a lesbian if I've fallen in love with a man, am I (?????)

Someone help me 😅