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i dont think im bi anymore?
Tldr: I’m (22) a trans man and i’ve identified as bisexual since i was 12 and not once did I question that label even after I started transitioning when I was 16. Started questioning if I’m actually maybe straight last year after my ex (cis girl) and i broke up and I finally had access to dating men again and realized I didn’t want to.
I’ve always been attracted to all sexes equally, when it comes to gender i am more attracted to the binaries (woman/man) but still it was a 50/50 split between men and women. My ex girlfriend and I broke up last year after being together for 3 years and I finally had time to sit down and wonder about what my dating life will look like now that I am an adult as opposed to a teenager. I started kind of freaking out because I realized that even though I am still sexually attracted to men sexually, I am not attracted to men romantically anymore… at all.
I shoved it to the side though because I do have a couple of very intense romantic and sexual male celebrity crushes.
Recently I matched with a guy and even though on paper he is 100% my type, I realized that I didn’t feel attracted to him when he matched me back. We talked for a few days and I was waiting it out to see if maybe it’s just me freaking out because I was with a woman for so long, but I realized after a few days that this isn’t what I want. Today I told him that I’m not really interested and that it’s best to part ways because his vision and mine don’t align and he called me obnoxious lol. I feel like that put the final nail on the coffin for me, especially since he was really my type.
Still though, I do like men sexually. I actually really do, but I don’t even think I see myself actually doing anything with them physically anymore even if i fantasize about it constantly. And it’s also weird to me since I do feel genuine romantic feelings for these two male celebrities, but now I’m even wondering if I would do anything with them if they actually miraculously asked me out. I think I’d say yes but now I’m not sure how I’d actually react.
Could this just have been a weird type of comphet remaining in my head from being raised as a girl and it’s finally going away? Do I still deserve to call myself bi? I’m just so lost and sad and confused.
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