I (25 nb) and he (25m) have been dating for 5 years, when he was 19 and I was 20. Things were so different when we started dating, I thought I'd meet his family and he'd meet mine and we'd be happy forever and ever, and that maybe no one would want to be my GF which is fine. Then everything changed 3 months in when my parents kicked me out, especially when I had wanted to introduce this amazing guy to them... He has been my rock throughout homelessness and exploring my queer identity and being nonbinary... but we have issues too, like me feeling like I need more queer community and historically me not getting along with his family, caused by my homelessness and having to impose on them during a summer and winter break when we were in university. If we break up I'll lose the apartment we both worked so hard to get together and help me feel secure. It's hard for me to parse whether this breakup will be good for me, if I'll grow in my independence and learn to rely less on him and more on community, or if I'm being influenced by queer community members who shit on me for dating a man (not caring that the man I'm dating is kind, communicative, emotionally mature, and has a trans lesbian sister who he learned a lot about the queer community from.) Am I being ungrateful and losing the best thing I'll ever have? Should I have fought harder to reconcile with his parents (something I know I still owe them as I'm healing my hurt and reconciling how I hurt others?) I really don't know if having a girlfriend or whatever would truly make me feel more secure or fulfilled but it hurts to feel unsupported and to think of going back to being alone, though I know growth could come out of this. I wish I knew if it would be more responsible to let him go so he can find someone with fewer issues or if I should keep working and staying and fighting to reconcile everything. God I just wish I didn't have to hurt him in all my confusion