Was thinking about asking this in the asexual or lesbian subreddits, but thought I would try here first.

I've (non-binary) been thinking about my response to men when they flirt with me, and it's usually terror or dread of what would happen next. Sort of like a "oh god he likes me, how do I escape?" response. Granted, this has mostly come from guys I am not into, and have never experienced flirting with a guy I actually like. Or on one occasion, I liked him until he started flirting and then I was like - oh no.

However, I would not be mad if a woman flirted with me. And there has been an instance where this woman I liked was flirting with me and I was super into it and wanted it to go further and was excited.

On top of this, I find I cannot make myself flirt (because I feels almost repulsive to me). But I'm also questioning if this is due to a lack of attraction, like you wouldn't want to make yourself flirt with someone you weren't into. So yeah, I don't know if this is a lack of experience around flirting, or if this is saying something deeper about my attractions 🤷