Firstly, everyone's experience of bisexuality is going to be unique. That said, I've been thinking a lot about what bisexuality means to me and I'm dissatisfied with the notions that I have heterosexual desires and homosexual desires, or I have split attraction, or I lean one way or the other, or that I have vanilla interests and kinky interests, or that I some combination of things.

Enough of all that. I have bisexual desire. My desire for women and my wife - bisexual. My desire for men - bisexual. My desire for genitals and bodies of all types - bisexual. Sex with my wife is a bisexual experience because I'm the one experiencing it and I have a bisexual orientation which means that I have desire for genders and I can develop feelings for those that I am attracted to full stop.