So I am bisexual, have only had physical relationships with girls in the past but had one romantic relationship with a guy online that lasted 6 months before ghosting me and keep having sexual urges for men. Now at the age of 28, I decided that when I go to the city, I am going to visit a gay bar for the first time to "try my luck" so to say, mingle with guys and see where it leads.

Now, a little issue is that I am mildly autistic and have quite distorted social intelligence. I have had a couple of girls in the past who I ended up having a long term relationship with, but usually they approached me online and did the flirting (sounds weird for being a guy, I know), and the attempts I had in high school where I tried to flirt with girls like every guy friend adviced me to, failed spectaculary. With other words, I don't have "games" 😂

So now when I am visiting the gay bar, how do I increase the likelihood that guys approach me instead of me having to go up to them? I can surely approach guys a couple of times, but doing it every time will surely become draining to me, especially in the case of a numbers game where the vast majority of approaches I do surely will lead nowhere. Once someone opens up a conversation with me, I tend to be very good at keeping the conversation moving.

My plan so far when I go there is to:

• wear a black suit with formal clothing (like what I would usually wear at a normal night club)
• begin the evening by ordering chicken scewers and orange juice (they have it on the menu)
• If the music of the djs are good, maybe dance a little (been excercising shuffling and dancing to edm music)
• to get advices about hygiene out of the way; will shower and style myself before going there.

As to what I am looking for, I am open to hookups, fwb and even relationships, but due to the risks of STDs I am quite restrictive with hookups and will only allow it if they agree to use condoms (I will bring with me) and that we can do it at a safe place (so in a hotel room I have booked or that we together have booked - no f**ks in the dress room, no doing the deed at his place the same night etc.). It's the reason why I would rather prefer either a relationship or a fwb.

Do you guys have any tips? Is anything of what I mentioned a bad idea, and is there something I forgot to address?