Choosing to embrace and enjoy my bisexuality has improved my marriage! There was much closeness and intimacy that was being blocked by my internal struggle with my sexuality. My wife always knew, but now that I'm openly embracing it, so many doors opened. She's bisexual too and now we talk about our bisexuality where I used to shy away from it. We're reading Dr. Shaw's book together too. We do not have gender equality in our household and now that I open about my sexuality, I'm also open to examining my part in perpetuating gender inequality and we're reading "Equal Partners" together. I shied away from physical intimacy because I was constantly struggling with the question of determining if I was gay or straight and I've largely given up tearing myself because I'm bisexual and I don't need to prove anything or figure anything out. I also shied away from sex because the worry and anxiety gave me erectile disfunction and now I'm taking Cialis which makes me feel like I'm in my early twenties again. Being open about my sexuality opened me up to taking medication to treat my erectile dysfunction. Furthermore, having confidence in my erection made me realize that I really do want my wife sexually. I, like many other bi folks, began to wonder if my attraction to the opposite gender was real. I'm on Lexapro too for anxiety and OCD now and I'm taking better care of myself than ever before. I'm open to becoming an active participant in bi culture - life has really opened up!