I'm a 29F who, though bisexual, has mostly had relationships with men. Even my friendships are mostly with men. This has led me to have a fairly idealistic view of women. I thought they were all smart, strong, beautiful, capable, emotionally healthy, communicative people. I thought this stereotype about lesbians jumping into LTRs was because women were more emotionally healthy and open. I was ready to jump! I responded to a reddit post and put myself out there and was chatting with this girl for a couple weeks. Flag after flag culminating in a conflict that felt all too similar to some of the toxic stuff men have tried to pull (rewriting history, making you the problem for pointing out discrepancies in what they say, not being forthcoming, not really being interested in me or my day, etc.). I'm not free of blame here. I jumped pretty head-first into an online texting situation with no real experience at any aspect of it. But frankly, I'm a little disappointed regardless. I had this idea of women that is just getting shattered the harder I try to date women. Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself. I've only ever dated one woman, but now my experience with 2 others while trying to embrace my bisexuality and be more thoughtful and intentional about dating women has me really wondering what the heck I was thinking... not about dating women but about this idea I had that women were inherently better so I'd be safer talking to women. That even if it didn't work out, maybe I'd make a friend because women don't get all toxic and shitty right? Well, no, I guess.

Idk that I have a point.... just feeling down about how dating women has gone so far. Any advice?

I'm also very very new to the queer community so any general knowledge or advice would also be welcome! It can be a little intimidating trying to break into that, and I will not turn down any info, advice, or friends!! Thank you in advance.