Like seriously… trans women having a penis is not in and of itself a good reason to expect them to top in the slightest. Obviously there are trans women who top, but I feel as though the expectation of them to do so is inherently transphobic as you wouldn't expect the same from a cis woman. I’m bisexual with no gender preference, and I've been in situations where people have actively gone against my boundaries and wanted me to top. Cis men do this a lot, but surprisingly trans men do it as well, like no dude i’m a very submissive girl, and like YOUR ALSO TRANS wouldn’t you understand at least a little bit more about potential genital dysphoria? Women overall have been a lot more understanding of the situation (cis or trans) but obviously this is just my own personal experience. And surprisingly there are a lot more cis woman tops than I thought there would be, which is again me conflating stereotypes with genitalia and I had to check myself on that. Like I'm sorry but if you’re gonna be with me man or woman, cis or trans, please do not expect me to top and be more understanding of a trans woman’s experience.