I (33F) have identified as lesbian since early on in my life and as queer for at least the last few years. I recently (past few months) broke things off with my ex gf and became curious about my sexuality. Up until this point I had only been sexual with women and only romantically attracted to women. As I am getting older I feel more desire to truly explore my sexuality because it feels like I’m changing. This lead me to hook up with 2 guys (separately).

I read some peoples experience who have similar stories. I noticed that a lot of them feel shame because they realize they aren’t actually lesbian. But that hasn’t been true for me, it’s actually been quite freeing.

From my experience with both guys I realize that although I liked the sexual connection with a man, I still am not romantically attracted to them. I cannot see men past a FWB situation. I thought maybe after sexually connecting with them that it would change my view on men romantically and it has not. I believe I genuinely love women in a way that will never compare.

Overall if I had to give myself a label it would be homoromantic bi or pansexual.