It’s really difficult being out and being around people who you know are queer as well but pretend they’re straight. That was once me so i totally get it. And I don’t believe in outing people because that’s a really messed up thing to do. I’m just expressing how internalized homophobia will have us act like we’re so far removed from something or someone we actually relate with. I couldn’t tolerate it forever but even in 2024 some people can and will. It’s not enjoyable to live in a contradiction though. To be a woman and be attracted to other women but you play it off because you’ve liked men up until this point, and maybe you have kids, and what will people think, and on and on. Just the thought alone of repressing my feelings isn’t a place I want to go back to. Tbh coming out hasn’t been the most fun experience but I didn’t want to deny myself of an amazing experience just because it didn’t fit into what society says. Not everyone is like that though. People have an image to protect and can’t admit the truth to that’s because it would be too scary. Relationships often suffer because of this as well. We both know who you really are but because you don’t present yourself honestly it can cause unnecessary tension. Because when it really comes down to it people in the closet don’t stand publicly with people who are just like them. A betrayal felt personally and with oneself.