So I have a longterm female fwb, we are like in a quasi-relationship/situationship but we are open. Like we have a good relationship and even go on dates and stuff and she'll even spend most weekends with me, but when we are apart we both have free range to do what we wanna do with other people and she knows I'm bi.

With regards to other people we kinda have a don't ask don't tell policy and it works for us, we don't use protection with each other but we both agreed to try our best to be careful with outsiders and that rule only popped up after she gave me gonorrhea a year ago. We both got treated and clean, and she was super apologetic, and it's whatever.

After that though, I got myself on prep e, and I take Doxy-PEP everytime I sleep with anyone without a condom, and it's been nothing but clean results since.

Anyway I matched on grindr with a really cute guy who did share with me that he is HIV positive but he's been taking all his meds as prescribed and he undetectable. Since I'm also on Prep I know there's virtual no risk i could contract the diseases from him, so honestly, I'm totally down to link.

That being said, my fwb is not on prep, and I'm wondering if this would be something that's appropriate given that I also have her to think about. Like I know it's technically no risk to her, and our rules are don't ask don't tell, so i can do whatever i want, but Idk, should I link with him anyway?

Tldr: I'm on prep and I want to link with an hiv poz person but I'm worried about my fwb.