I (NB21) am active socially, I go to nightclubs and parties, I have friends, I meet people through my hobbies, I go to the gym regularly and diet, I’m very confident in myself, each time I go out to a party I have multiple people compliment me and tell me my outfits/fashion sense is awesome. I use dating apps as a secondary measure, I have high, hard earned self esteem.

Everyone tells me I’m a chill, yet fun person with a good sense of morality, I’m very open minded, and I’ve learned how to lead conversations well.

This is not a post to brag. It’s a post of frustration.

It seems I’m doing everything I can right, and yet, all of my friends and everyone around me has partners, but not me.

I’m not desperate or obsessive about it, I know my worth and I’ve learned that having a partner doesn’t define me as a better or lesser person. But I’m increasingly frustrated about it. What am I missing? Each time I ask a friend how they found their partner, the answer always is ‘I got lucky’. Maybe I just don’t have enough luck…