coming to terms with my sexuality became a lot easier when i realized i could be gay for men AND women (and obv everything in between or beyond). it was so stressful when i viewed things through a binary lens, i never identified as a binary gender but the thing about internalized biphobia is that it requires certainty over whether or not you like one gender more or less than the other, if youre queer enough, etc. adding gender into the mix, its hard trying to decide which gender youre hetero for and which gender youre homo for (even though thats not even how bisexuality works …). sometimes your gender is so fucky that its deeply uncomfortable to imagine yourself being “straight” in any scenario. i cant help but feel a little guilty identifying like this but its honestly what makes me feel the most comfortable. anyone relate?